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Brent Dill (who goes by the handle Ialdabaoth, and in some cases frustrateddemiurge) abused and sexually assaulted two people I know, Persephone and T. You may find their stories, as well as the story of T’s partner Jonathan, here.
I have been friends with T for many years and can vouch for her reliability and the consistency of her story. Many details of both Persephone and T’s stories have been confirmed by people who were present. Documentation, including text message conversations and “slave contracts”, has been shown to trustworthy people.
This is what Brent Dill looks like:
There is at least one other Brent Dill, who lives in Texas, likes basketball, and tweets here. If you are a different Brent Dill who has not abused anyone, I would be happy to include a description or your photo so that you are not mistaken for the abusive Brent Dill. If you are uncertain whether your Brent Dill is the correct Brent Dill, please contact me.
I thought for a long time about whether I should post this. I am hesitant to link someone’s legal name and photo to their online accounts; I am aware this may cause him to lose jobs, which in our society may mean hunger or homelessness. However, the rationalist community is not the first community where Brent has abused people. He has shown no sign that he will refrain from abusing in the future. I think that informing future victims is more important, at this point, than protecting Brent’s reputation and employability.
Further, Brent Dill’s Google results already include a discussion of his abusiveness. Unfortunately, the discussion is of a sort that, I’m afraid, Brent could easily twist to support his own narrative of persecution. I hope that a factual description of his actions is harder for him to spin as an attack. I also worry about splash damage onto innocent Brent Dills, which I tried to minimize by including a photo of the non-innocent Brent Dill and a description of the innocent Brent Dill I know about. The other discussion also (through no fault of its own) includes no contact person for people who are concerned about Brent’s presence in their community.
If Brent Dill is part of your community, or if you or a friend are dating or considering dating him, please email me at ozyfrantz@gmail.com. I can provide corroboration for T and Persephone’s stories that is not available publicly and talk with you about next steps. If you know about a publicly available story of Brent abusing someone or other reliable information about his abusiveness, please post it in the comments here, email me, or email Mittens Cautious, so that future people can make informed decisions.
ozymandias said:
Comments to this post will be very tightly moderated.
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deluks917 said:
This had to be said. Amazing job.
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wireheadwannabe said:
Has he still made no attempt to deny the claims against him?
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jeqofire said:
I recall an SSC comment conversation, some years ago, where someone said he sounded like a possible abuser, to which he replied with something to the effect of “Yeah, could be. I’m messed up in that sort of way, so maybe.” So I would be surprised if he denied it now.
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LeeEsq said:
While I realize you have noble goals, you are opening yourself to a libel action.
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gazeboist said:
This looks like a fairly straightforward opinion based on disclosed facts.
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Sniffnoy said:
No opinion on the overall question of whether posting this is a good idea law-wise, but a fair bit of this appears to be opinion based on undisclosed facts, which (I’m pretty sure) is not protected. (IANAL.)
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Murphy said:
@Sniffnoy
Ya, that was my exact thought. “Bob is a [bad thing] because look at this letter where he says [bad thing] type things” is fine even if when someone looks at the letter Bob has said nothing of the sort.
But if you just say “I have seen letters that show bob is a [bad thing] and I might share them with select people” that’s a very different ballgame.
It’s like a tad risky to post this in this way if he’s at all litigious.
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Navin K said:
In the US, that means that Dill has to prove that (a) Ozy is lying and (b) Ozy knows it
Not too worried about that
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Seth said:
Also: I don’t know Dill and I could be completely wrong, but I would be somewhat surprised if he turned out to be litigious over this.
While it doesn’t excuse his behavior in the least, I’ve long noticed that he seems to have some level of self-awareness about the sort of person he is. AFAIK he hasn’t even attempted to defend himself from the recent accusations, though I grant I’m not privy to everyone going on here.
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ozymandias said:
In the United States, truth is an absolute defense against defamation and everything I said was, in fact, true.
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Fisher said:
The process is the punishment.
Fortunately, CA has an anti-SLAPP law.
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Sheila said:
“The process is the punishment”
That is very sadly true. A friend of mine has been going through litigation for about 8 months over publicizing a rape claim she heard about second-hand. If you can prove you believed it was true (for instance, by sharing with the court how you heard it) you will be able to win the case and hopefully get court costs also. But it can be a difficult process and it is very tempting to settle, especially if you can’t afford a lawyer. Fortunately it’s something people can be very willing to fundraise for.
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Nancy Lebovitz said:
I was one of the people trying to give Brent advice on LW and Facebook. I’m thinking I should have taken danger signs (that he needed unlimited trust to feel safe) more seriously.
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leftrationalist said:
I would like to warn you that /r/sneerclub has a thread on your post and you might have some moderation to do downstream.
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Robert Hicks said:
I knew him years ago and after he came with a friend for a photo shoot has managed to be the only person I have ever refused to have in my home again. Just casually mentioning sawing off of limbs if I recall correctly, been a decade but still
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Elizabeth said:
Somewhat tangential, but here’s an interesting article about how the internet has made names seem less unique: https://www-theatlantic-com.cdn.ampproject.org/v/s/www.theatlantic.com/amp/article/526143/?amp_js_v=a2&_gsa=1&usqp=mq331AQCCAE%3D#referrer=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.com&_tf=From%20%251%24s&share=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.theatlantic.com%2Ftechnology%2Farchive%2F2017%2F05%2Fall-the-online-julie-becks-and-me%2F526143%2F
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