So, mumblemumble months ago, I did a survey! And then I kind of forgot about analyzing the data! Sorry about that! But now I have remembered and there shall be a bunch of posts about what I have found.

First, raw statistics! Later, I will write a post on the results of the qualitative questions, and finally a post on interesting correlations and hypothesis testing.

The survey was taken by 460 people.

55% male
34.1% female
10.9% other

Assigned Sex At Birth

59.3% assigned male at birth
40.5% assigned female at birth
.2% intersex


40.2% female-typical hormone balance
58.9% male-typical hormone balance
0.9% another hormone balance
(It is possible that “other” is overrepresented in this last question because of confusion about what ‘other’ means. It was intended to refer to trans people who take low-dose testosterone or estrogen.)

Sexual Orientation

38.7% bisexual
10.2% asexual
47% heterosexual
4.1% homosexual

Romantic Orientation

30.7% biromantic/panromantic
4.3% aromantic
44.9% heteroromantic
7.1% homoromantic
13.6% “I don’t know, this is confusing.”

Kinkiness Level

5.7% obligate kinky
26.1% prefer kink but enjoy vanilla
19.7% slight preference for kink
14% indifferent between kink and vanilla
9.4% slight preference for vanilla
21.1% prefer vanilla but enjoy kink
3.9% obligate vanilla

Interest In Nonsexual BDSM

44.4% Yes
52.9% No
2.7% Maybe

Topic Of Sexual Fantasies

28.3% mostly stories, emotions, character dynamics, etc.
23.2% mostly acts, physical appearances, etc.
43.6% an equal amount of both
4.9% other

Type of Porn Consumed

12.1% always visual
32.6% mostly visual
26.1% 50/50 visual and written porn
23.9% mostly written porn
5.4% always written porn

Age At First Sexual Interest

30.4% under ten
36.6% ten to twelve
24.8% thirteen to fifteen
5.1% sixteen to nineteen
3.1% over twenty

Did you have kinks, sexual fantasies, or sexual interests before you knew what sex was?

55.1% yes
44.9% no

Would a picture of your sexual interests be safe for work?

5.3% Yes
36.9% Sometimes
57.7% No

Do you experience romantic attraction?

94.1% Yes
5.1% No

Crush Symptoms

85.5% fantasies about romantic things happening with them
75.8% persistent, involuntary, and intrusive thoughts
71.7% sifting through their behavior or speech for signs they return your affection
67.6% collecting information about them
54.8% when thinking about them brain feels sparkly or like fireworks
54.6% shyness or fear around them
54.1% remembering romantic events that happened with them
45.9% crippling fear of rejection
44.2% talking about them all the time
37.9% difficulty saying words around them
20% self-insertion of self and them into romantic movies or literature

[The next questions were asked only of individuals who have experienced crush symptoms.]

Percentage of Crushes Where Crush Symptoms Are Experienced

41.1% Every time you have a crush
29.7% About three-quarters of your crushes
16.2% About half of your crushes
3.3% About a quarter of your crushes
9.6% Only a few of your crushes

Usual Duration of Crush Symptoms

4.8% For a few hours or a day
8.9% Ends before we start dating
7.9% Ends when we start dating
34.3% Less than six months into a relationship
15.2% Six months to a year into a relationship
7.3% More than a year
21.6% Never ends

Longest Duration of Crush Symptoms

2.6% For a few hours or a day
4.2% Ends before we start dating
6.5% Ends when we start dating
21.5% Less than six months into a relationship
13.4% Six months to a year into a relationship
17.6% More than a year
34.2% Never ends

Do you experience more symptoms or for a longer period if the person is more romantically desirable?

54.3% Yes
44% It doesn’t seem to matter
1.6% No, I experience them longer if the person is less romantically desirable

About what percentage of your partners have been someone you originally experienced crush symptoms for?

34.5% All
15.2% About three-quarters
20.4% About half
10.9% About a quarter
19% Very few

Desire For People One Experiences Crush Symptoms Towards To Return Affection

79.1% yes
18.1% no
2.5% I actively prefer they don’t